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Girls have a super power they can use to live rent free in any guy’s head pretty much eternally. All they need to do is catch them off guard with a compliment.
A guy will keep a shirt until it literally disintegrates if one time a girl said “that color looks good on you.” Pretty much every guy that wears a particular cologne, wears that cologne because at some point a girl said he smelled nice. It’s not even a horny brain thing I don’t think. It’s just that guys get so few compliments on their appearance that every single one is massively precious to them.
girls would do this more often but there’s always the (justified tbh) fear that the guy will take it the wrong way and get weird about it :(
It goes both ways I think too. Guys wouldn’t obsess over the idea that a single compliment might be flirting if they were more used to compliments in general from both sexes. On the other hand some guys are so afraid of misreading a compliment or normal friendliness that they can’t tell when someone actually is flirting. I sort of think there need to be more voices out there meant to speak directly to men and masc people about social literacy that aren’t trying to turn them into hateful, violent, incel republicans.
hard agree, it’s a tragedy that toxic masculinity has taken over that space. I’m not the target audience being nb but I have a lot of respect for the Speeed yt channel for doing exactly that.
It’s absolutely justified fear. For every one guy who will just take it as a sweet compliment, there are ten guys who will think “she wants the D!”
Honestly I don’t think the ratio is that bad… But it doesn’t have to be, when just one creep can ruin your life…
You fuck one goat…
Is that an order?
It wasn’t a question
I’ve always bought my husband red shirts because I think he looks good in a bold red color. About 17 years of marriage before he finally told me he doesn’t really care for the color, that he just wants to look good for me.
awee 🙄 (I can’t find the sweet teary eyed emoji, pretend this is that one)
Best comment xD
Anon’s tombstone:
“She really liked my voice.”
I was told blue looks good on me by a girl.
10 years later, most of my shirts are blue.
I hope she wasn’t colour blind 😬
Purple for me. Fortunately I like it too.
Turns out she was making a BJ joke and occasionally lies awake cringing at the joke that everyone missed.
“You smell so nice” - a gay female co-worker. I was wearing a new cologne that I purchased for myself. It was very expensive so I’m glad I chose well
“If I wasn’t a lesbian, I’d 100% date you”
Normally, I’d write this off as someone “letting me down easy”, but this was my best friend in High school that I knew for years, so I know the sentiment was genuine.
I don’t remember basically anyone from my secondary schoold other than my 4 close freinds and this one girl that randomly asked me for a hug one day, said I give really good hugs, then basically never spoke to me again.
I get compliments on my hugs on the reg. Well, less regularly as I get older and meet new people less often, but still. Being a good hugger is somehow a weirdly rare skill?
🤗 hugs!
You deserve a blowjob.
That’s kept me floating for years.
I hope you receive it one day 🙏
It’s the thought that counts.
Is it though?
no.
It’s the throat that counts
I’ve received two compliments from women out of the blue in my life. The first time was when a coworker told me i had a nice voice and should do voice acting for anime. That was 2006.
The second was another coworker said “at least you’re cute” to some offhand joke i made. That was 2018.
At that rate, I expect another nice comment around 2032 or so.
The data indicates 12 years which would be 2030.
That’s a lot more optimistic!
I’m assuming that there’ll be an additional wait period. They are experiencing heavy call volume at this time.
It’s austerity now, so we can probably expect a bit of deflation on the compliment market, pushing back projected compliment growth rates.
In my projections I have substituted the loss in volume with AI bots and OF girls.
omg my last one was in 2018 as well. we can be besties
I had a girl compliment my voice too ! I was maybe 17, had her on the phone, she was a friend’s friend. Then we met and she ostensibly lost all her excitement
Many years ago, my girlfriend’s grandma said I had a good voice for radio. I misheard her, thought she said a good face for radio. I didn’t react badly at the time, because being polite and all, but I didn’t like her grandma for a while. Then it came out what she had really said, girlfriend had a big laugh. I don’t remember what grandma thought of it, I was a little too embarrassed to have any attention to spare…
hah ! misunderstandings sometimes have lasting effects on our lives
Oof, that hurts.
I’m not a woman, but I think you type nicely.
Thanks, sugar!
Everytime the cashier flips the tablet over before a tip, they say a compliment. I always tip more than I usually do.
They got you good
I’m not saying anything about right or wrong or societies roles, but I don’t even think it’s hyperbole to say my wife has been complimented thousands of times more then I have in our lives. It’s incredibly rare for me to get a compliment from a stranger, and even then it’s usually from other guys saying they like some item I’m wearing. It really does feel fucking incredible when it happens because it’s so insanely rare. And not to toot my own horn too much, but I’m not that bad looking, so I can’t imagine what it’s like for people with less fortune than I have in their appearance.
Same. I still think about the older gentleman who randomly told me my glasses had a cool icon on them. Made me glow for days.
I give my man compliments all the time. He calls me silly and pretends he doesn’t care, but I think it is working. Have been running a semi-non stop compliment campaign since Covid where I tell him how beautiful his hair is in the hopes he will cut it less. It’s been a good while since he last came home looking like a sheep after shearing. Summer is approaching, though, so I’m bracing myself for him getting the idea to visit the barber and have him mutilate those beautiful locks of his. It should be crime, honestly.
It’s such a cruel thing that compliments from partners don’t feel the same as compliments from strangers. My wife has been telling me parts of my body are attractive for agres, but I didn’t really internalize it until I heard it from others as well.
It’s the same phenomena as when your parents try to give you good advice but you will only listen to it if it comes from the mouths of “outsiders”.
Example: my boyfriend tried to get me into Tool for ages and I was very indifferent to it. Then my closest colleague starts playing Tool at work and I’m like “omg this music is awesome” and I go home and tell my bf about this amazing new band I have gotten into and he just gets so offended like “I literally tried to get you into it for years wtf”. We laugh about it sometimes.
One time a buddy and I were out drinking and on our way out he ran into a childhood friend. So while they were catching up I was just leaning against a table and listening to their conversation and people watching.
A pretty attractive woman came up to me, looked me dead in the eyes, and said “you’d be more attractive if you had some self-confidence”, and then walked out of the bar.
I think about that every day. Because I have never in my life been told I need “more confidence” (actually, it’s usually the opposite haha).
Maybe she wanted you to approach her, you ignored her “signals” and the only reason that could be, at least from her point of view, was that you lacked confidence.
Aahhh… so, that morse code…??
Yeah I assumed so. It was a few years ago so we probably talked for a bit at the bar (I am not allowed to go get drinks by myself cause I’ll end up talking to strangers for 45 mins haha) but I don’t remember her from any other point in the night.
Idk it was just really strange haha
Shit like that, I’d probably not read too much into it. Some girls just like to fuck with people (people have been trolling before trolling was an internet term). She probably left laughing how she fucked with your head (yeah, some beautiful girls are fucking deeply ugly on the inside, and vice versa)
They’re rare, but they do exist.
I’m an ugly woman and I remember getting a compliment from someone at dunkin. It was another woman, but she said I looked pretty. I think to this day she’s the only person who has complimented me that wasn’t a friend or something. 😅
I’ve had plenty of men yell out “huge bitch” and what have you though. 🤷🏿♀️
I don’t imagine they were quoting Deuce Bigalow?
Some of them definitely were. They said it with the inflection and everything. 😂
I’ve received a lot of compliments on my voice in life, Nicknames for it throughout school; i didn’t have a period of voice cracking, literally woke up one day and my voice was different (scared the shit out of my parents that morning).
I hate my voice 🙃
Everyone hates their voice haha just know it sounds different to other people than it does to you.
I feel like I prefer the voice I hear in my head than the voice I hear when I record myself :(
A girl once told me I am not horrific to look at. God that fucked me up lol.
I feel that pain. It’s like that “worst she can do is say no” thing. When I was 12 my friends were joking about who another friend should “date” (ofc in the capacity that 12yos manage that) and someone JOKINGLY suggested me, I even laughed along for a second. Her answer, rather than laughing along or something, was a deadpan “eww”. That fucked my confidence for years
Shit, I’m sorry. I have had a similar experience at around 7yo that imbalanced my relationships to others for the next 25 years. I’m pulling out of it now by sheer force of will and analysis. Wish you the best,
Once a group of us were playing spin the bottle and it landed on me and the girl said eww, he’s like my brother or whatever and then spun again and the guy it landed on got a double bj from her and her friend. I felt sad at the time, especially since we were all camping so we could hear them in the tents. I’m still friends with those girls (now grown women.) Your story reminded me of that and I haven’t thought of it in 20 years.
