Back with newsgroups the general rule was to go from general to specific. You start with a general discussion group and when discussions about video games get annoying you create a games group. If then there are too many Baldur’s Gate discussions you create BG. If they are dominated by Baldur’s Gate 3 you create a Baldur’s Gate 3 group. If everyone is fawning over Withers you create a Withers group which of course will be flooded with discussion about the Withers’ tits mod, which shall get its own group.

Meaning you should create a group when demand is there and not the other way around.

  • Elevator7009@ani.socialEnglish
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    2 days ago

    Just want to clarify it could be both reasons or just one of them. I do get a nice progressive vibe from the Fediverse, not a sexist one. People were good and nice about the WomensStuff community. I am hardly the person to turn to sexism as my first explanation for things—in other words I’m no stereotypical angry feminist and my hair has never been dyed, thank you very much. But individual assholes who break that norm do exist, hence me still wanting to be cautious about sexist behavior in my OP

      • Elevator7009@ani.socialEnglish
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        2 days ago

        check my edit lol

        I am not going there specifically because most women-only communities I have been in have complaining about sexist men and the patriarchy, and this one will allow it. I come to internet communities to have fun, not to doom about other people facing oppression and how some day my bubble will pop and I’ll face it too (yay for being a counter example to “every woman has a [sexual assault] story” because I do not and god I hope it stays that way). I understand the value of a support community, I have just repeatedly found that most support communities end up being unhealthy places for me specifically.

        Especially because they almost always “punch up” at the majority, and I understand why it happens but holy hell do I really not want to see it, makes me all kinds of uncomfortable and angry even though I am usually part of the minority demographic punching and not the majority getting punched at. My energy is far better used fighting for minority rights in real life than getting pissed at them online (and tbh I’ll probably never stop getting mad when I see that kind of language, yes I know their explanations and justifications for it which is why I stay out of their communities so I don’t see the upsetting talk instead of lecturing them on why they should not vent frustrations in a safe space for them cordoned off from the general public, where venting that does not make “obviously this is venting” and “this doesn’t apply to everyone in the majority ever” disclaimers can be expected).

        I wish them luck, and in their first days I did send a list of communities other women might like.