

Except the army’s own government website explicitly says otherwise
Any member of the military has a commonly understood obligation to disobey an illegal order;
https://www.army.mil/article/47175/breaking_ranks_dissent_and_the_military_professional
Yeah, calling other domestic abusers to protect you is definitely the best way to deal with your abuser. It definitely won’t upset them more and will surely lead to everyone being resolved.