Think of it as the society being the victim. The clearest example is when Trump started talking about Fake News. The goal is to devoid words of meaning, to reason based only on emotional attachment, to eliminate critical thinking. This guy follows the same strategy.

Below a definition of gaslighting, I think it applies pretty well to the kind of society these people are leaving behind:

Examples of gaslighting behaviors are denying something the other person knows is true, spreading rumors about them, and blaming the victim. The mental health impact of gaslighting includes feelings of powerlessness, confusion, isolation, disorientation, and low self-esteem

He is saying that she didn’t win, he lost.

Which is a longer way of saying that she won, he is contradicting himself.

Yes, that whole paragraph sounded like “She won” in an awful lot of frustrated and apologetic words

WOW, love at first sight, I didn’t know this painter, but all his paintings look so dynamic and lively. I love it!

I am not and I wasn’t, but keep’em coming

n? Creep around until she clocks out? Just give her the space and agency to disengage. Give her your number on a piece of paper. And don’t make it awkward if she doesn’t respond.

leave a note with your number and the greatest pickup line