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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023



  • Doesn’t feminism basically boil down to “everyone should be equal”?

    I think I agree with most everything RBG has said for example. Women should be anywhere decisions are made, etc. I struggle with her statement that it will only be enough when all the justices are women. I don’t think men should be excluded. I understand folks that are fine with the pendulum swinging that far, men have controlled women for as much of history as I have learned about. I would think a diverse representative body of justices that include men, women, along with disadvantaged groups (be it sexual orientation, gender, race, etc) would be the goal. I’m not smart like her, and she’s certainly more informed than I am on the topic, so I figure I don’t understand because everything else from her seems intuitively obvious and easy to follow for me.


  • If that was my life circumstances and it was allowed I would push the buttons to cast her vote in whatever way she wanted even if it differed from how I was going to vote in my ballot. Pushing her aside isn’t a good look but maybe she told him ahead of time. I have my ballot printed and everything highlighted after researching local issues and candidates so I can just go in and vote without having to try interpreting everything on the spot at the booth. I guess I would like to naively believe that a husband and care taker would respect his spouse enough to honor her wishes at the booth. Wouldn’t be at all surprised if that wasn’t true though.


  • I think I might have gotten into my own head with it when I first noticed what you meant when I touched my lips. I touched my genitals after and then went to my thighs. My lips and genitals I can clearly feel that they are being touched by my finger and I don’t feel it through my finger. So I started poking my thighs, chest, back, feet, etc and it kept feeling the same but I think I was pushing too hard or had the experiment in my head too much. After reading this post I can feel the difference testing my lips vs my forehead and from there I seem to weirdly be able to tell my brain is influencing wether I feel the sensation through my thigh or my finger if I do that next. If I go from my lips to my thigh I feel it in my thigh, if I go from my forehead to my thigh I feel both through my finger. It’s like my brain is screwing with me/itself because it knows what I’m doing. I bet if I was less focused on what I’m trying to experiment with that I could do it in a more decoupled way. Such a small but cool bit about myself that I had no idea was a thing. Thank you for explaining and walking me through the process.

    Edit: I think I reversed the sensation direction in my first response, my only excuse is that this is kind of wild and new territory for me so I think I struggle communication the different sensations that I never even realized I was capable of until now. Your explanation and guidance was still right on though. Thank you










  • I’ve never heard of anyone not just setting the deck depth, putting the throttling to max, engaging the blades and proceeding to mow. Nothing about what you said seems at all like anything anyone realistically cares or worries about. Whether a push mower, small riding mower, zero turn, or sub compact tractor; it’s all essentially the same. Nobody is changing blades out by the season. Someone that cares will probably sharpen their blades at the end of the mowing season but that takes about as much learning as washing the dishes. It was like reading a cosplay about lawn mowing from someone that has never mowed before.




  • I appreciate the insight and time you have taken to respond. Also your understanding. I have a really difficult time processing the situation. It does feel very cult like and matter of fact. I don’t understand how someone that seems so good can know something so bad is going on, who is so obviously able to recognize the bad in other related areas, and blindly vehemently support them unquestionably. He’s intelligent and successful…yet so lost, the most caring and compassionate person I know; it can’t be ok.


  • He is evangelical Christian yes. I don’t have much exposure to religion. I have gone to his church a couple times when he has asked me to in the decade or so we’ve been friends. I’m in my forties. I’ve never felt pressured but I also keep my religion or lack of to myself. I just never really understood the position on Israel and it really stuck out to me. Even though he will freely admit how crazy and hateful things are out of the MAGA crowd, I get the feeling anytime the topic gets close to coming up with me he fends it off by essentially communicating to me that he has unwavering and unquestioned support of Israel and I haven’t been willing to push it since he is otherwise a great person in my life that has helped me through a number of difficulties.