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Cake day: June 12th, 2023


  • You can’t blame yourself for how you feel or how it affects you. You might, like me, be too tough on yourself.

    The only real advice I can give is to make sure you reflect on all the positive things you gain from therapy. Think about stuff therapist have recommended you to do, do them and think about how it improved your life. Even if it’s just a minor improvement.

    And always remember it’s okay to not be okay.

    Me. I have days where I can’t see the end, can’t enjoy things I used to like. But I force myself to go outside, go to the supermarket or whatever. Just this tiny walk every day has made the number of horrible days so much less. The days thermselves still suck really bad but they are further apart. On this day, I allow myself to feel sorry for myself and try my best to act cheerful for my wife and get out of her way quickly so that my negative mood doesn’t affect her too much.

    Bottom line: just think about how therapy has had a positive effect on you. I have no experience with group sessions, but considering one of them has an effect on you, try to find out if any of them have experienced positive effects from your input. You might feel better about therapy itself if you know you’re helping others.

    But as a final thought I’d like to second what was said in the other comment. It is imperative that you talk to one of the therapists and explain what you are experiencing. Maybe in a few months, you’ll be able to share this with the group and explain how you got through it.

    Keep at it and focus on the positive.










  • I’m not saying I understand the magnitude, but ICYMI: the populist right is also winning left and right in Europe. In my country, it’s mostly just kind of funny since these blowhards are only now realising governing a country is kind of difficult and lots of government employees are just fighting against everything that’s idiotic or destructive.

    Thing is, one man can only do so much. If there are still people on the inside who have a feel for wrong and right, democracy is pretty rigid. People are desperate, but nowhere near as desperate as Germans were in the 30s after the huge sanctions and fines after The Great War.

    In any event: my take on it all is to see what happens. If you voted, you did all you can do other than organising and taking to the streets. That’s essentially what your second amendment is for. To put a positive spin on it: maybe he will actually improve your admittedly declining country. I just hope the means won’t be catastrophic for anyone.



  • I think it’s pretty much impossible to fully get out of filter bubbles, but the only way to really get every view on everything is to be part of everything mainstream AND everything more underground. Personally, I don’t feel the need to associate with any other social media. I think toxicity differs from being exposed to a different point of view.

    Reddit has had the problem for years that if you tried to make a point that slightly differed from the hive mind’s opinion, however eloquently you would put it, everyone would just pile on with their ‘akshually’ mentality and not even be open to any other viewpoint than their own.

    And that’s toxicity without even mentioning folks that would just say ‘no’ followed by hateful language.

    I feel Lemmy is a far kinder, more balanced community where you can have a polite discussion about stuff. And OP is right, if a certain instance shows its users can’t behave or have such different views than your own, you can just make them go away and enjoy the rest of Lemmy.

    I just hope those users don’t defederate from the rest of us so at some point they will have a more nuanced view of things.






  • While it is definitely true that China puts a lot of questionable electronics into the world, it is still a country with a huge amount of ‘independent’ tech researchers. Independent in the sense that they pretty much have to keep it all within Chinese circles.

    If you compare it to South Korea, they are on the forefront of certain mainstay innovation tracks by cooperating narrowly with researchers from their target demographic, like the United States. The Chinese don’t have that luxury, yet they are conducting the research by buying products from Japan, the US, Korea and Europe, deconstructing and then reconstructing them. For Europe and the US, this is highly illegal due to patent law.

    Thing is, though: there are loads of brilliant Chinese people due to its sheer size. It’s a numbers game, if you have a 1bn population, the top of the line folks are going to be numerous. Most of them get their education somewhere outside China and then bring all the knowledge back to their own unis and companies.

    It’s really no surprise China has made one of the best electric car, how a company like Xiaomi is present virtually everywhere and Huawei got so far, the US and Europe really had to take a good look if their tech wasn’t just a massive spy program. Tencent is so huge, most telco and gaming companies have some collaboration with it. ByteDance is the supplier of the number one spyware app ever with over a billion users worldwide who are happy to provide them with tons of data.

    This is without even mentioning that most of your electronics are made in China anyway, which has given them the edge of seeing exactly how the sausage is made, sausage in this case being lithium batteries. They have figured out long ago that if they can become the sole supplier of batteries, they will be in all devices around the world. They have been keeping an eye on Africa to get a foothold in the lithium mines and they have figured out cobalt is the difficult part. They don’t really care about the toxicity and the child labour, but the scarcity and mining difficulties are a concern. So they tried to replace it with all kinds of materials and sulfur seems to be a very promising alternative, and it is as abundant and easy as sand.

    The Chinese know what they’re doing and if not for our ideological differences, they could have easily surpassed the United States as the de facto power that everyone follows blindly.