The cops are unlikely to help you, wherever you are.

Instead, try social services, or a domestic abuse charity, they will be significantly more sympathetic and could potentially offer you support, or at least tools to try and deal with this situation.

The other thing is to protect yourself, go no contact or at least reduce it. It sounds from your short post that you are an adult and live in your own property - don’t let him in. If he has a key - change the locks. If he tries to break in then the police might help, try and gather as much evidence as you can (like a camera doorbell or other recording). Don’t answer any of his communication, if you can, block/delete him from all of your devices and social media. Personally, I would apply the same to your mother, that’s up to you, but it sounds like she’s at the very least enabling him, so isn’t looking out for your best interests, and you need to ask yourself if those are the kind of people you want in your life.

Life is too short to hang on to toxic people who harm us in the hope that they might change. Being related doesn’t make them worthy of your time energy or love. If they do eventually regret their actions and want to apologise and try to make amends, you can let them, or you can choose not to, both are valid.

Take care.

Because the powers that be and the systems they have in place (capitalism, Christian white supremacy, patriarchy, cis-heteronormativity) benefit in one way or another.

If they teach us that Julius Caesar was a bad guy and that it’s good he was defeated, then we might learn that our current leaders are often bad guys too, and that maybe we should do the same to them.

In the same way that if they teach us that Hitler took his inspiration for the holocaust from already firmly established American racism, we might learn that our own history is just as bad and should be fought against at all cost (which is also what we’re taught instead of the reality - the allies fought the Nazis because they threatened their own power, not because of an ideological disagreement).

That’s why we’re not taught (or only given a palatable token example) about working people fighting the owning class for basic rights, Black brown and Indigenous people fighting the Christian white supremacist establishment and winning, and other oppressed groups standing up to their oppressors (E: nor most of the atrocities they have and continue to commit).

Whitewashing history is always a deliberate act, and is always done in defence of the ruling class.

That amount is pathetic considering how this has probably derailed her life (on top of the trauma of the actual rape), and the fact that

Jade said she was still waiting to hear from the CPS about the lessons it has learned from her case.

is seriously infuriating.

All they’ve done is cover their ass, no steps have been taken to ensure this shit doesn’t happen to someone else, if anything, it normalises this kind of defence, because worst case, there’s just a relatively small “fine” to pay, no disciplinary action, not even a 2 hour “seminar” on rape culture and its influence on the “justice” system.

You’re very welcome!

And yeah, it really is awful, almost sorry I had to link it, but the image just shared such a striking resemblance (in my mind, anyway!) and I thought some context would help since she isn’t otherwise well known.

That’s very good.

Also happened to watched a documentary last night about the The Kerry babies case, and your drawing instantly reminded me of the wrongly accused Joanne Hayes, so even the name you gave it fits:

I don’t know if this counts, but in terms of “proper” condiments I generally just stick to mayo and strong mustard, so here’s a good all rounder dressing/dip/marinade I’ve been using a lot recently:

• 2 parts dark soya sauce
• 1 part rice vinegar
• 1 part sesame oil
• fresh chopped chilli or chilli sauce to taste (I like Encona Original Hot Pepper Sauce and add 1/2 to 1 part)
• garlic powder or paste (or a couple of roasted and mushed up cloves)
• ginger is optional (personally not a fan)

EDIT, though probably far too late for anyone to notice, but I’ve just realised I forgot to mention an important ingredient: 1/2 to 1 teaspoon of sugar (or honey, or maple, or anything sweet).

All in a jar you can close, shake well before each use, will last in the fridge for ages.

Can easily be upgraded or adjusted to taste, goes with anything you want to make taste vaguely Asian - salads or roasted/stir fried veg, noodles, rice, meat/substitute… I love it with melted butter on sweetcorn, or on a cold rice noodle salad.

Glad you found it helpful/interesting!

Yeah, it’s mindboggling as it is, but when you know how much more money the richest few people have made since it was last updated (the world’s five richest men have more than doubled their fortunes to $869bn since 2020), or how much all of the world’s billionaires are hoarding combined (2,781 billionaires with a total net wealth of $14.2 trillion - the pixel site only goes up to 3.2 trillion), or that this trend isn’t going anywhere or slowing down, it really is overwhelming.

And to help illustrate your important reminder, a (probably now outdated) visualisation of just how many dollars they actually posses:

https://mkorostoff.github.io/1-pixel-wealth/

When the “other motives” are literal propaganda that helps maintain inequality at the expense of the people it exploits under the pretence of “help”, it is black and white to anyone who isn’t too busy licking boot.

How? How is directly and unashamedly exploiting poor people for views and profit (while promoting yourself as “self made” no less) better than whatever it is you’re referencing (presumably just another version of poor people being exploited for views and profit)??

Why do you feel the need to defend the indefensible?

Altruistic implies he was doing it out of the kindness of his heart and got nothing out of it, when in reality he was making poverty porn for profit and to further his own career.

I would say the most beneficial thing you could do for yourself instead of investing energy in to avoiding “feminine” workouts, is to work on unlearning the toxic masculinity that has created these false, sexist, and bioessentialist ideas in your mind in the first place.

Once you’ve done that you’ll be free to consider what exercises actually works best for you, rather than what exercises to avoid because you don’t want to be considered “inferior” (by yourself and others who harbour toxic masculinity).

Autism is not a reason for bigotry.

Oh, won’t somebody think of the “good” cop… 🙄

I just got an image in my head of him wearing an eye patch on his ear with the elastic running across his forehead, and had a good giggle, thanks lol

I think that’s a little ableist and a lot reductionist, ignoring the people creating these ideas and institutions and enforcing them (including by historically and still in different forms today actually institutionalising people that speak against them), because they didn’t come out of thin air, and the money and power those people have definitely isn’t imaginary.

Don’t blame people grasping at straws for comfort in this shitty shitty world, blame those manipulating and exploiting them for profit and power.

You should give “Praying for Armageddon” a watch.

The TL;DW is that evangelical Christians are outspoken supporters of war in Israel, because they believe it will bring forth the second coming of Jesus.

A baby can die in utero as a result of neglect and they’d say it was God’s will

and then prosecute the person whose uterus it was for “terminating” the pregnancy (even if we remove the neglect factor, also much of “neglect” is just poverty and lack of community and social support, which they promote under the guise of “nuclear family”), and the doctors involved for delivering the dead foetus, and maybe even give someone a hefty reward for reporting them.

While religion figures will often try their best to extract money, it’s still “free to play”, and I would say occupies mind rather than body.

I think for-profit healthcare is a better example in this case - literally charging you to keep your body alive (E: though capitalism a whole and its commodification of the things we all need to survive in addition to healthcare like water food and shelter would also qualify).