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I once made my mom go quiet, and then apologize to me, defeating this point.

I was telling her that she could be really cruel with her words sometimes, and that I’d like to her to be less so. She told me I shouldn’t take it so seriously, grow a thicker skin, that they’re just words.

But she’s my mother, and what she thinks of me and what she says will always weigh ten times more in my mind than the words of almost anyone else. Ignoring what strangers think of me is easy, but with her, it’s literally impossible. I was telling her off because I knew she doesn’t mean the worst of what she says, and that despite that, coming from her every word hits like a freight train. That it takes enormous effort to think through and discount the parts she doesn’t mean. I told her that.

At the time I felt really clever for making that point. Getting her to actually go quiet and say sorry felt amazing, so it stayed with me.

I later realized it probably landed so hard because of how her parents treated/treat her.

The point is that if that weren’t true, the good ones should be dealing with the bad ones. And sometimes they do.

But that isn’t the case in some places.

The phrase is intended to call attention to the fact that in some places things have gotten so bad the police is no longer capable of policing itself. It’s not that they’re all the worst, it’s that they’re all just bad enough to not lift a finger against “their own” when they should.

When a system can no longer hold itself to its own standards, the whole thing is no longer fit for purpose.

Second time I’m bringing it up in this thread, but in response to exactly that kind of thinking is why I’ve adopted “the universe doesn’t care, so we have to” as a phrase I try to live by.

There are so many popular ways of thinking that absolve humans and humanity of various kinds of responsibility.

It’s not good.

I got told “life isn’t fair” so many times growing up, I came up with a default comeback: “Doesn’t mean you have to be.”

A version of it has grown to became my tenet in life: “The universe doesn’t care, so we have to.”

But you DO act as if people won’t just bring over whatever they personally liked. As if there’s some debate to be had, and a kind of consensus to be reached about not doing so with stuff people like you arbitrarily consider “valueless”.

Even within your own framework of “value” can you really argue that something lots of people like, that doesn’t really cost anyone else anything, is somehow detrimental enough to oppose?

And who the fuck cares if it’s shallow? Positive online interaction is positive online interaction. How the hell do you come to the conclusion that having less of THAT would be an improvement?

Ok. So you’re saying your disillusionment should apply to everyone?

If you can’t have fun with it, no-one else should get to?

I was on Reddit for over a decade. Seeing people make posts to celebrate their anniversary for joining the platform was never stale.

Tolerating something a lot of people clearly have fun with costs you nothing, and trying to shut it down as “pointless” and “not fun” is such old man yelling “stop playing on the park lawn” type bullshit.

Yup, gone.

Why do you hate people having innocent fun? Do you enjoy walking up to people who are smiling, and explaining that their reasons for doing so are dumb?

You’re account is tagged as a bot. Is that intentional? It’s a checkbox in account settings.

Plus you pay them to publish, not the other way around.

They charge for literally every step in the process, even the ones where in other systems you’d be the one charging them.

I’d be very down to be able to subscribe to a couple select subs back there.

But I’d also be a bit disappointed because several Reddit communities have fediverse versions that are just nicer to be in, and I’m not so sure they’d survive if people could just go interact with the reddit equivalents via federation.

Deadlines

Don’t know about that specific one, but my family has been using this type of “zapping racket” for decades. The ones we got are very effective and have been working that whole time.

English, Swedish, and Finnish.

Gonna try to post more to !gameart@sopuli.xyz, more subscribers and posters welcome both.

There’ve been a couple times. I make a distinction between frustration at the company and the person, but sometimes you run into reps that are willfully unhelpful or actively malicious for their own gain.

Two cases come to mind. I’ve had an ISP rep call me about updated prices, who then proceeded to try and sell me a broadband and streaming bundle subscription. I would have gotten a slightly faster speed, plus the streaming BS. Same price as I was already paying.

I specifically asked if unbundled contracts had also been changed, and the dude said “no”. I checked the prices online while still on the call, and the bastard was straight up lying. Without the streaming bundled, the price was lower and came with even more speed. I told him this, and he asked “oh do you want that then?”. I replied “yes, but not if it gives you a sales bonus”, so I hung up and signed up for the new contract via the ISP website.

In the other case I was shopping for jeans, and the store rep repeatedly handed me elastane-ridden skinny jeans a few sizes too small, insisting they’d look better, even as I kept telling him the exact size I wanted, and that I preferred the 100% cotton denim, loose fit jeans. At the fourth pair of skinny jeans I told him to fuck off, and just went through the store myself until I found what I was looking for.

You don’t.

Better yet, how do you know any modern religion is anything like what it should be like, generations later?

Religions seem very sure about their own teachings, even as they change. Within your own lifetime you’ve probably noticed that a priest or simply a believer you know has ended up changing their mind on something. Just a generation or two of believers and the current ones won’t be thinking and saying the kind of stuff the first ones were, and vice versa.

One pope says nay, next one says yay. If god is speaking through them, did god change his mind? If he is, why didn’t he just get it right from the start?

Religion isn’t like logic, which states 2+2 will always be 4. The simple passage of time and the broken telephone that is human word of mouth, means religion is incapable of staying consistent for more than about a decade, if that.

What’s more, the religions that exist today are the ones that were the best at spreading. If a religion isn’t appealing, people don’t stick with it. So religions tend to morph and splinter, evolving into whatever is just nice enough that a bunch of people will sign up.

They are the original meme, in the scientific sense. An infectious idea that gets recounted over an over, each person changing it slightly to be more appealing during a re-telling, empowering its spread.

I personally think the “how good is it” part of “advertising” should literally just be a percentage value of “how many existing customers say it was worth it”.

But even that would get gamed the way 5/5 amazon reviews can be bought today already.

So maybe it should really just be “it’s a insert thing made out of insert material produced in insert country by insert labour conditions and it costs insert price”.

The firmware update couldn’t fix damage that had already been done.

The bugged firmware was actually killing the drives by wearing them out prematurely.

The fixed firmware only stopped damaging the NAND storage, but there is no way for it to undo damage that had already occurred.

An ssd functioning normally can deal with years and years of daily hibernating.