Copium may be a meme, but it’s an actual defense mechanism, we convince ourselves of reasons to soften the blow

Helps realizing that it’s not that she deserves better but your brain makes up that excuse so it’s easier to dump her having an excuse you can believe in… Well, it helps getting over the impulse, it doesn’t actually help the situation, I don’t think.

Yeah, seeing them as a person seems like a crucial part in that equation.

I feel like the idea that women are otherworldly creatures instead of people and seeing someone being nice to their partner as “the man having tamed a female and convinced her to treat him well” has a lot to do with his problem.

I hate how much that is preserved socially, there’s no good reason why that hasn’t gone away at least a decade or two ago.