In 1944, a middle school girl gave her friend a card for her 14th birthday. When the girl’s birthday came around, the friend sent the same card back to her. “Neither one of us can remember who started it,” said Pat DeReamer, one of the two girls, who is now 95. The other teen was Mary Kroger, now 94.
For the past 81 years, DeReamer and Kroger have been sending the same birthday card back and forth to each other on their birthdays, signing their names and the date each time. DeReamer opens it every year on her birthday, April 1, then signs it and mails it to Kroger, so she can open it on her birthday, May 20. Kroger lives in Carmel, Indiana, and DeReamer lives in Louisville
“It’s been a long time,” Kroger said. The timeworn card features a cartoon dog with a large red polka-dot bow tie. It reads: “Here’s wishing you a BIRTHDAY that really is COLOSSAL.” The message continues on the inside of the card: “’Cause it’ll be a long, long time before YOU’RE an old fossil!”
As they’re both nearing 100, the greeting “has taken on real meaning this year,” DeReamer said. The inside of the card has an illustration of a large dinosaur skeleton spanning both sides. The women write the years on the dinosaur’s bones, and cross out the other’s signature when they receive the card. After eight decades, it is crowded with writing.
“We never missed a year,” DeReamer said, noting that one year, the birthday card got lost in the mail, but her husband tracked it down. The friends have not seen each other in a few years, as it’s gotten more difficult for them to travel. The birthday card, though, has been a constant in their lives.
“I’m always excited to get the card,” DeReamer said.
They said they intend to continue the card exchange for as long as they are able, and they believe their families will eventually take over. “I’m sure if I can’t do it, my children will,” Kroger said.
I wish this was more of a tradition. Even with gifts. Pass a piece of jewelry back and forth. Reduce consumption while maintaining the symbolism of gift giving.
A Muppet Family Christmas had a great example of this. Fraggles give a “Fraggle Pebble” as a gift, and it gets re-gifted over and over.
They said they intend to continue the card exchange for as long as they are able, and they believe their families will eventually take over. “I’m sure if I can’t do it, my children will,” Kroger said.
40k years in the future, full dynasties will be built around this custom
I just wanted to look at the card…
Oh my heart. 😭
Neither one of us can remember who started it
DeReamer opens it every year on her birthday, April 1, then signs it and mails it to Kroger, so she can open it on her birthday, May 20
a) There are dates written on it so it shouldn’t be too difficult to work out.
b) Given the proximity of the two birthdays, almost certainly Kroger sent the card originally.
🤓☝️
It’s just as likely Kroger received the card first, held onto it for a year and returned it as a hilarious April 1st joke.
mansplaining in a nutshell
If this is mansplaining I want more of it.
When a popup appears that says “Ways to read this article” I’m done.
You might be interested in trying tesseract, which has a built in link box that includes helpful things like archive links for news articles. I also posted an archive link in the comments.
In any case we’re not going to solve the question how to fund the news in a productive way in comments section. Sources with government funding are subject to the oversight of the government, donation models are only effective at promoting sensationalist echo chambers, ads are breaking the internet and most people block them anyway. What’s left is a subscription model, which locks away the very news that the world most needs.
For now I feel like a variety of niche news sources, which you’re calling echo chambers, are imperfect but good enough. In the past, commercial newspapers and broadcasters with their editorial slants were imperfect but good enough. Once we reach a post-scarcity economy, simply being alive will be the universal “subscription model” for almost everything. I’m coming to think of post-scarcity as the key change, and it’s actually becoming do-able.
Unfortunately, absent unbiased funding, news companies are just being bought and controlled. At this point, we need third-party unbiased aggregators to figure out what the actual news was between what each side reports and omits. But, the third-party aggregators also need money to keep going… hopefully, they won’t also be bought and biased at some point…
This is so cool!